Why Do Weeds Grow in the Garden of Your Marriage?

 

Marriage problems are real. They are just as real as weeds that live in our yards and in our gardens.

 

Bachelorette Adult Home Parties / Oxford, MSAnd the principle that allows them to live isjust as real as the principle that allows weeds to live. Weeds and marriage problems require the right environment for them to live.

You cannot have a marriage problem unlessyou have a lifestyle that supports it.

If you’re experiencing problems in your marriage the first thing you must do is take responsibility for how you are allowing the environment for that problem to exist.

If you’re an adult living in a free country, you don’t get to be a victim of a bad marriage. You have the choice to stay stuck in a bad marriage, fix your bad marriage or get out of your bad marriage. And if you think you should give up, I believe you have to earn the right to give up by first doing everything you possibly can to make it work.

So the first step you must take to fix marriage problems is fix the bad environment that allows it to exist.

 

You start fixing this bad environment by examining your own behavior for ways you are contributing to this bad environment. Yes your spouse has a part in this and in fact your spouse may hold the lion’s share of responsibility for causing this bad environment. But for the purpose of this post I’m only going to address you and the part you have in causing this bad environment to exist.

Here are Three Things to Examine

Your Words:

 

What are the words you are speaking about your marriage and about your spouse? The words you speak help create the environment around. You cannot speak words of resentment, anger, and disrespect and not expect those words to affect your marriage. Your words can evoke peace or strife, love or hate, grace or intolerance, forgiveness or bitterness, the choice is yours.

Sex Toy Fun Parties / Holly Springs, MSYour Thinking:

 

What are the thoughts you find yourself dwelling on? What thoughts keep creeping back up when you least expect them? Your thought life will guide your life. When your thoughts are bad your words and your actions will be as well. You cannot improve the environment of your marriage without correcting the way you think.

Your Heart:

 

What are the emotions you feel behind the words you speak and the thoughts you think? The words you speak and the thoughts you think come from the condition of your heart.You don’t get to speak bad words and then turn around and say you didn’t mean it. And you don’t get to think bad thoughts and say there is nothing wrong in your heart.

So you begin fixing a bad marriage by changing the environment.

 

You change this bad environment by changing the way you speak, the way you think, and the way you feel. The way you talk and the way you think will come a long way once you change the way you feel. So start changing the way you feel by dealing with some root causes.

  • Forgive where you have been resentful.
  • Make peace where battle lines of war have been drawn.
  • Practice giving grace in areas you have been critical.
  • Seek to be more understanding and patient instead of dwelling on disappointments.
  • Show some gratitude for the things you have taken for granted.
  • Give yourself permission to believe again instead of caving in to despair.

Now this sounds easy, but you and I know this is very hard to do in reality. You will be tested. You will doubt if the effort you are giving is making any difference. You will feel weak because you refuse to engage in battle. You may have setbacks and you may give up from time to time.

But it can be done. And if you persist and press on with determination to do your part of changing this bad environment, something good will always come out of the effort you put into it. And if you do this for no other reason, do it for yourself. Become the person you want to be. You deserve to be a better you.

Marriage problems are real. They are just as real as weeds that live in our yards and in our gardens.

 

Fun Parties / Jackson, TNAnd the principle that allows them to live isjust as real as the principle that allows weeds to live. Weeds and marriage problems require the right environment for them to live.

You cannot have a marriage problem unlessyou have a lifestyle that supports it.

If you’re experiencing problems in your marriage the first thing you must do is take responsibility for how you are allowing the environment for that problem to exist.

If you’re an adult living in a free country, you don’t get to be a victim of a bad marriage. You have the choice to stay stuck in a bad marriage, fix your bad marriage or get out of your bad marriage. And if you think you should give up, I believe you have to earn the right to give up by first doing everything you possibly can to make it work.

So the first step you must take to fix marriage problems is fix the bad environment that allows it to exist.

 

You start fixing this bad environment by examining your own behavior for ways you are contributing to this bad environment. Yes your spouse has a part in this and in fact your spouse may hold the lion’s share of responsibility for causing this bad environment. But for the purpose of this post I’m only going to address you and the part you have in causing this bad environment to exist.

Here are Three Things to Examine

Your Words:

 

What are the words you are speaking about your marriage and about your spouse? The words you speak help create the environment around. You cannot speak words of resentment, anger, and disrespect and not expect those words to affect your marriage. Your words can evoke peace or strife, love or hate, grace or intolerance, forgiveness or bitterness, the choice is yours.

Passion Toy Parties / Ripley, TNYour Thinking:

 

What are the thoughts you find yourself dwelling on? What thoughts keep creeping back up when you least expect them? Your thought life will guide your life. When your thoughts are bad your words and your actions will be as well. You cannot improve the environment of your marriage without correcting the way you think.

Your Heart:

 

What are the emotions you feel behind the words you speak and the thoughts you think? The words you speak and the thoughts you think come from the condition of your heart.You don’t get to speak bad words and then turn around and say you didn’t mean it. And you don’t get to think bad thoughts and say there is nothing wrong in your heart.

So you begin fixing a bad marriage by changing the environment.

 

You change this bad environment by changing the way you speak, the way you think, and the way you feel. The way you talk and the way you think will come a long way once you change the way you feel. So start changing the way you feel by dealing with some root causes.

  • Forgive where you have been resentful.
  • Make peace where battle lines of war have been drawn.
  • Practice giving grace in areas you have been critical.
  • Seek to be more understanding and patient instead of dwelling on disappointments.
  • Show some gratitude for the things you have taken for granted.
  • Give yourself permission to believe again instead of caving in to despair.

Now this sounds easy, but you and I know this is very hard to do in reality. You will be tested. You will doubt if the effort you are giving is making any difference. You will feel weak because you refuse to engage in battle. You may have setbacks and you may give up from time to time.

But it can be done. And if you persist and press on with determination to do your part of changing this bad environment, something good will always come out of the effort you put into it. And if you do this for no other reason, do it for yourself. Become the person you want to be. You deserve to be a better you.

 

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